I recently wrote a book entitled
The Source of
Leadership: Eight Drivers of the High-Impact Leader.
In the introduction, I wrote about the ultimate
alignment of my own personal search for my best life
with my professional search for the "holy grail" of
leadership success:
I began to observe and analyze the high-impact
leaders and ordinary leaders with whom I worked as
well as study those I'd worked with previously. I
found that success and failure always boil down to
personal characteristics. The more I studied, I
found that success and failure as a leader depend on
the same personal choices and practices-ways of
being, deep within-that I was learning in my own
very personal search. It was a dovetailing of
profound impact! The drivers, the personal energies,
that were radically transforming my personal life
were also critical to being a high-impact leader.
So what drivers radically transformed my life? What
personal energies fueled what I consider my best
life? They are
presence, and I'm speaking
about consciousness and mindfulness,
openness,
clarity of thought, emotion, and behavior,
intention, personal responsibility, intuition,
creativity, and connected communication.
The good news is that they exist within each of us
and are waiting to be accessed, developed, and used
as powerful fuel for achieving optimal levels of
productivity and efficiency, awareness and
understanding, self-definition, integrity, health,
and creativity. Fuel for developing and maintaining
healthy interpersonal relationships. Fuel for
courage and optimism. Fuel for achieving the
outcomes we desire. Ultimately, fuel for
contentment.
Today's Challenges
Ultimately, the conditions we are experiencing as a
society - things like wars, political stand-offs
among nations, global warming, the subprime mess,
backdating of corporate stock options and other
corporate misdeeds from fraud and theft all the way
down to just being unable to fulfill commitments to
investors, religious scandal, violent crime, high
divorce rates, substance and other addictions, all
forms of abuse, youth gang activity - are just
extensions or symptoms of conditions we are
experiencing as individuals. Conditions like lack of
awareness, stress, malaise, closed-mindedness, lack
of creativity, inability to focus, lack of purpose,
inefficiency, lapses in integrity, fear, anger,
shame, blame, depression, strained personal
relationships, and poor health.
What has caused these conditions? Why are we
struggling to lead ourselves - and ultimately our
society - effectively? In a word . . . technology.
While not a bad thing - in fact, I happen to believe
it is a very good thing, a meaningful part of the
human potential - its dimensions must be recognized
and addressed. And the reality is that technology
has conspired to overwhelm us with increasing
amounts of increasingly complex data, downloaded at
faster and faster rates. As a collective practice,
self-leadership has simply fallen behind the pace of
everything else in the world that has been
accelerated and complicated by technology. We are
often unable to distinguish useful from useless
data. Even if we can, we don't have time to
understand what to do with the useful before it
quickly becomes useless. We're trying to "drink out
of a fire hose."
When you want to change conditions in a particular
environment, you usually need new tools or you need
to enhance the tools you already have. In the case
of self-leadership, in the quest for your best life,
you'll almost certainly need new or enhanced tools.
As I mentioned, the good news is that you already
have them inside you. You simply have to access and
develop them.
Using Your Eight Drivers to Overcome
Today's Challenges
Presence is really a
baseline - or foundational - energy, one that drives
all traits and functions necessary to live your best
life. It also drives the other seven drivers. When
you live in the present moment, you understand that
everything is connected. Irrelevance is gone.
Everything matters. You absorb every bit of life
because you are highly focused. You think more
clearly and efficiently. You act with more integrity
and clarity. You are unburdened by unproductive
thoughts of the past or future. You worry less. You
fear less. You are infinitely more creative.
As a means of enhancing my presence, I've been
meditating for about ten years and have experienced
first-hand the profound impact that a more conscious
existence can have on one's quest for his or her
best life. I know myself better and am more
self-defined. I see more, I understand more, I can
absorb more data, I am less stressed, I waste less
time on meaningless things, I prioritize better, I
listen better, I am more empathic, I speak better, I
inspire better, I am more focused and organized, I
am more creative, I can plan better, I have
healthier relationships, and I produce more and
better results in all aspects of my life..
Openness is the second key
driver of your best life. Many, if not most of us,
have learned through difficult life experiences to
resist "what is." If we once felt pain in response
to something, we close ourselves to situations that
might involve the same pain. In some cases, this may
be a form of self-preservation or protection.
However, we often close ourselves off from
opportunities because of unrelated pain experienced
long ago. And we often fix our beliefs because we
fear the unknown. Fears and fixed beliefs, however,
are incongruent with a dynamic, rapidly changing
world. Resisting "what is" actually causes more pain
and drains our energy. Opening to "what is" becomes
liberating and energizing. When you're open, you
constantly seek to widen the net for possibilities,
and resist nothing. In your best life, you are
curious, you are a font of ideas and creativity, and
you see possibilities everywhere.
Clarity is the third
driver of your best life - clarity in thoughts,
emotions, and behavior. We have all, at least on
occasion, thought, emoted, or acted out of anger,
rage, envy, insecurity, guilt, greed, or some other
fear-based stimulus. The sad fact is that too many
people do it too much of the time. They work hard to
maintain a healthy, clear persona-the appearance
they present to the world-and suppress the unhealthy
characteristics of their shadow-the personality and
behavior energies that have been repressed from
consciousness, usually since childhood. But they
allow their shadow traits, such as rage and envy, to
undermine their best intentions and drain them of
energy. When you choose clarity of thought, emotion,
and behavior, you choose to honestly acknowledge
your shadow traits and use the light of honesty and
openness to manage them so they do not undermine
your relationships and pursuit of happiness. When
you are clear, you find it easy to define every
element of who you are, both to yourself and to
others. You are people oriented, open-hearted with a
genuine love for people. You see the good and the
potential in everyone, instead of a threat. You have
healthy, empowering relationships with others.
Intention is the fourth
driver of your best life. In every moment, each of
us can choose intention or neglect, intention or
disempowerment. While many of us constantly say or
think "I hope" and "I want" and "I'd like," few of
us sincerely believe we can bring about a desired
result. Thus, we often cast our fate to the four
winds or to the intentions of others. Last century,
Napoleon Hill (1960) found - and documented in Think
and Grow Rich, originally published in 1937 - that
the active practice of intention was the single-most
important determinant of personal and professional
success. Nevertheless, I have known very few people
who actually practice their intention. Few have
enough faith, it seems, in the power of intention.
Practicing intention, which involves a discipline of
expressing your desired result in great detail,
regularly visualizing it as a current reality,
offering exchange for it, starting a "conspiracy" of
people focused on helping you achieve your
intention, and, ultimately, detaching from it,
significantly helps you to achieve the results you
want in your life.
Personal responsibility is
the fifth driver of your best life. We live in an
era where personal responsibility has been replaced
by blame and litigation. These actions are
fear-based denials of reality, and ultimately they
poison interpersonal and work relationships.
Personal responsibility is complete ownership of
"what is," as distinguished from openness, which is
the unbounded willingness to consider every element
of "what is." Once you learn to own "what is" on
every front, and create the energy that results when
you can say, "I am completely responsible for every
positive and negative element that exists in my
life," you will see a dramatic improvement in the
integrity with which people view you, your courage,
and your personal relationships. I mean, who
wouldn't want to associate with someone who never
blamed, or neglected or disowned a responsibility?
Intuition is the sixth
driver of your best life. Each of us was gifted with
a powerful source of inspiration - a knowing, an
intuition - that is embedded in this omniscient
energy that binds everything that is. But fear often
causes us to abandon too quickly in favor of a
"safer" route supported by "facts" or the opinions
of others. In doing this, we abdicate the crucial
role that active intuition plays in life. The
skilled and liberal use of intuition enables your
ability to make good decisions in all areas of your
life, adapt to uncertainty and changing conditions,
and interact with others in a highly empathic,
supportive way.
Creativity is the seventh
driver of your best life. If you want your best
life, once you truly appreciate that life is binary
- there is only creation and destruction, growth and
decay, life and death - it is pretty easy to decide
that you want to be on the side of creation, growth,
and life. Stagnation, which is just a stage of decay
and death, is not a viable option. The key then, is
stoking your creativity in every possible way so
that you remain aligned, and not at odds, with life
itself. Fortunately, every person has the potential
to be a powerful creative force. When you tap into
that creativity, you become highly energetic, you
see possibilities instead of barriers, you see a
better life for yourself and everyone around you and
you see a path for achieving it.
Connected communication is
the eighth driver of your best life. In the complex,
adaptive system in which we live, where everyone is
interconnected and relationships are paramount,
communication is essential for survival. Once past
mere survival, the better you communicate, the
better your relationships will be. The better your
relationships, the better your life will be. Better
communication is a function of increasing the
connection in your communication. "Connected
communication" is an intensely powerful energy - a
driver - deep within each of us. On a connected
path, you are present, mindful, and completely
honest. You are clear and concise, acutely empathic,
and in complete alignment with "what is." Everyone
around you senses the integrity, the wholeness, of
who you are and how you communicate; others gather
strength in your presence. The system of connected
communication, from clear expression of a purposeful
message by an empathic speaker to an empathic
listener, fuels your ability to be supportive of and
inspiring to others and have productive, empowering
personal relationships.
The Waterfall Effect
Many people ask me about other drivers - personal
energies - and why they aren't part of the "select"
list of drivers. Of course, anyone can include
anything they want in his or her list. But my answer
is that I have found that most other energies flow
from the eight described energies. They operate when
the eight energies have been developed. For
instance, love - in all its dimension, form, and
glory - flourishes when you are present, conscious,
and aware, clear in your thought, emotion, and
behavior, taking personal responsibility for
everything, and communicating with others in a
highly connected way. Gratitude and humility also
flow from presence. It is impossible to be present
and conscious and not filled with gratitude for
every element of your existence and humility in the
face of it. Likewise, all elements of health -
nutrition, movement, breath, positive thinking,
healing - flow from presence and awareness. You
don't find a lot of present people regularly eating
fast food hamburgers and opting for television over
exercise. Forgiveness flows from presence as well as
the empathy inherent in connected communication.
Apology flows from personal responsibility.
Conclusion
The solution to our worsening societal woes, and
conversely our best societal life, is in leadership.
Leadership at the societal level begins with
leadership of the self. Each of us living our best
individual life will flow into our best collective
life. It is just a matter of accessing powers -
drivers - with which we are already endowed.
David M. Traversi, a nationally known executive
coach, is the author of The Source of Leadership:
Eight Drivers of the High-Impact Leader,
www.thesourceofleadership.com.